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Couples who rushed in regret it the longest

Connection Regret·All ages

They met at thirty-two and booked a wedding venue six months later. Weekends went to showrooms and seating charts; the only question they asked each other about values was where to spend the honeymoon. Fifteen years on, he said from the sofa, "Why were we in such a rush?" When the divorce papers were signed, what stayed was not anger but the years of questions they never asked.

Choose a mate with extreme care… Don't rush in without knowing each other deeply. That's very dangerous, but people do it all the time.

— Karl Pillemer, Cornell gerontologist

TODAY’S PRACTICE

Before you say yes, ask three questions about values — not taste.

#Values#SlowDecision#RealQuestions

SOURCE

Karl Pillemer, 30 Lessons for Living · Cornell Legacy Project

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