Reconciliation has an expiry date

He and his brother haven't spoken in twelve years. It started over who paid more of their father's hospital bills. Every holiday their mother starts to say both names and stops. Last month he heard his brother was admitted. He got as far as the lobby and turned back: "If I call first, it feels like I lost." The Cornell elders say: if you hold a grudge, make it right now, because there may not be another chance. Reconciliation isn't for whoever wins. It's for whoever goes first.