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The top marriage regret isn't personality
Connection Regret·All ages
Cornell researchers asked older Americans about "buyer's remorse" in marriage. The most frequent answer wasn't mismatched personalities or money. It was discovering that a spouse could not — or would not — talk. A house where nobody asks how the day went, where hurt goes unmentioned, where speaking returns only silence. What separates couples is not difference but the time spent unable to name it.
The most frequent source of 'buyer's remorse' in our respondents' marriages was finding that a spouse just couldn't or wouldn't communicate.
— Cornell Legacy Project
TODAY’S PRACTICE
Tonight ask "how was your day" and listen for three minutes without interrupting.
#TalkDaily#BreakSilence#Listen
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Cornell Legacy Project interview
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